At the beginning of any new relationship, the excitement makes you feel the top of the world. Eventually when the newness fades off the relationship can feel like it’s growing stale. You aren’t doomed to remain in a dull and boring relationship, however. Here are a few ways you can make your relationship alive and exciting as before.
Element of Surprise
Giving a variety of surprises time to time is vital. Get a small gift when you arrive home, cook your partner’s favorite meal or book a surprise weekend getaway. These types of surprises will keep the excitement alive and prevent you from getting stuck in a relationship rut.
Send romantic messages for one another while you’re apart. It creates an anticipation for when you’ll see each other again. Use texting to send short messages of love, admiration, and encouragement. To spice up things don’t be hesitant or afraid to send some sexy text messages. It is a simple and easy way to keep the romance in your relationship.
Going a Regular Date Nights
At the initial phase of a relationship, many couples go on dates regularly. Often going out for dinner get traded in for sitting on the couch. This is results in making the relationship. Remember to schedule regular date nights so you can spend quality time together as a couple.
Say it Verbally – Your Loving Feelings
Use to words to express your feelings. At times people may forget all those mushy things they used to say to one another once the relationship matures. Say, “I love you,” often and don’t shy away from words that truly express how you feel.
Try Something New Together
Doing things together or participating in a new activity together can keep the relationship exciting. Take a Chinese cooking class, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or take golf lessons together. A willingness to learn something new can help you grow together as a couple.
Spend Time with Other Couples
Spending time with couples who have healthy relationships can be good for you. Look for couples who share your values and who have a strong relationship. It can help reinforce the importance of commitment and help remind you to keep the relationship exciting.
Establish Goals Together
Create some goals that you can work on together as a couple. It may include a financial goal, such as saving a certain amount of money to go to on a vacation. Or, it could include a fitness goal, such as running a half marathon together. Working toward your goals can help you feel like a team and gives you new things to talk about and do together.
Talk about Your Hopes and Dreams
When you are dating you likely spoke about your hopes and dreams. However, those sorts of conversations can fall by the wayside. Make sure you set time aside to continue to discuss your dreams for the future and support one another in making those dreams a reality.
Ask Meaningful Questions
Over the time there is a change in the type of questions people ask. Questions such as, “What was your life like when you were growing up?” often get replaced with questions like, “What do you want for dinner?” Ask meaningful questions about your partner’s past, thoughts on current events, and feelings about a variety of topics. Try to get past superficial day-to-day conversations and dive deeper.
Greet with Excitement
You can set the tone of the day by the way you greet each other after being apart. Small changes in your habit like greeting your partner when they get home can be Changing small habits, can be key to a lasting relationship. Express your joy at being together again, greet your partner at the door with a hug and a kiss. This can start things off on the right foot and set you on the path to reconnect after being apart.